Having a dog will bless you with the happiest days of your life, and one of the worst.
They say nothing in life is permanent but change. This thanksgiving weekend I had to come to grips with a change that I didn’t want. One that I’ve waited for but would give anything to stop it. To hold onto it a little more before it had to slip away. But that’s life, and in these moments that are more Painful than any explanation, I’m still left with a heart full of joy for the gift and impact that the last 18 years have offered.
Christmas morning year 2000, we ran down the stairs with excitement, opened all of our presents from Santa and after all was said and done, mom said “I have one more!” She comes walking out with a two pound black ball of fur with a big red bow that was bigger than he was. We named him Maxamillion, and that day I found my best friend for the next 18 years and a memory that would carry on a lifetime. He was by far, the best Christmas present ever.
Today at almost 30 years old with tears streaming down my face, I held Max in my arms as he took his last breath the same way I held Max in my arms the day he breathed his first with us, and I said goodbye to my best friend. While driving to bury him on our family land where I once ran as a child, I asked myself the question: “What was so special about Max to you? What role did he play in some of the most influential years of your life?” And it was just that, he was my best friend. From a young child, throughout my adolescent and teenage years up through early adulthood. He was always there. When I felt like no one else was, it was him. As a child when I felt so alone, Max was molded to the side of my leg or right at my heels and wouldn’t let go. He licked the tears away and He gave kisses on command. Every single day when I would be minutes out from coming home from school, he would sit patiently by the door waiting for me. How he knew? That’s the special intuition that only an animal knows. We will never understand the capabilities and deepness in the bond that we as humans have with our furry friends. Days when I was sick and when I was hurting, he always knew. He followed me everywhere and never left my side. I found at a young age, that when I was hurting the most, there are things that you can get from the silent devoted companionship that you can get from no other source.
Today as we made the decision that it was time, I honestly didn’t know if I could handle it. The thought of walking into the vets office with him made my eyes well up with tears. I’ve always said goodbye every time I’ve left home the past couple of years but never fully comprehended what it would truly feel like. Max never left my side, even on the darkest days, and I couldn’t leave his. The last 2 days I have spent cherishing every last moment that I knew I had with him. I’ve held him closer than I ever have. Last night, as our last, I pulled him close to my side as it was just him and I. I laid my head on his and I told him how much I loved him. I thanked him for being there and for being my best friend when I wasn’t always a best friend back. I apologized for days when other things came before him. Even For moving Away. I wanted him to know that I never gave up on him. And lastly I told him that he was my one. That I don’t know the caliber of woman that I would be today without his agape love, sacrifice, and selflessness the last 18 years. It’s funny how much of an impact that something who can’t speak can have on one person, isn’t it?
I consider it a pure blessing to be able to be home and to hold him tight to my heart as he took his last breath. A Black Friday will never be the same. But I do know there will never be another Black Friday that I won’t look up and thank God for 18 precious years of this gift. Hold your dogs tighter and love them everyday. You are all they have and they live for you day in and day out. You never know when you will have to hold them for their last breath. It’s not and If, it’s a when. Cherish every second.
Years ago I found an excerpt that said God couldn’t physically be with us so he gave us dogs with a simple explanation that Dog spelled backwards is God. God said, “I need somebody strong enough to pull sleds and find bombs, yet gentle enough to love babies and lead the blind. Somebody who will spend all day on a couch with a resting head and supportive eyes to lift the spirits of a broken heart.” So God made a dog. They love unconditionally like he does, they are selfless, they are the prime example of agape love. Even on days when we push them away, they pull us even closer and hold us even tighter. They don’t judge us for the bad that we do, it’s unconditional. Maxamillion was my little piece of God here on earth and I am forever grateful. Rest In Peace my sweet friend. I will see you over rainbow bridge one day soon.
I say max was lucky to have you and you him God bless!😇🐕